Princess Diana`s children
Dreadful headaches, stomachache, dizziness, nausea
after every bite! Why must a woman be so ill, just because she's pregnant? Diana
couldn't understand it. She was, after all, pleased about the baby. Finally she
would have a task which totally suited her. Yet, on 5th November 1981, just four
months after the wedding, as the Queen officially confirmed her
daughter-in-law's pregnancy, Diana's peace came to an end. Innumerable greetings
cards were sent to the palace. "The whole world is watching my stomach", Diana
complained at the time. The media circus, which was already very oppressive
anyway, grew to really unimaginable proportions. And it was clear what the
people, kingdom and crown wanted: a son, heir and future king!
Diana didn't feel like celebrating. She felt ill! The Queen showed her concern
and considerably reduced the number of Diana's official appearances. It was a
very fearful time for Prince Charles. He saw his wife suffering and didn't know
how he could help her. Why couldn't Diana pull herself together? She was, after
all, not the first woman to ever have a baby! Time again Diana managed to keep
her composure in public.
The entrance to St. Mary's Hospital had been occupied for days by photographers
and onlookers. Half the world was in delivery fever, the newspapers didn't know
any other theme any more.
"I believe that the whole of England lay with me during labour", Diana later
said, my fears, and also the pressure which weighed upon me, were dreadful.
21st June 1982 Diana brought a healthy baby in to the world.
Hurrah, it was a boy! William, the heir to the throne! Her hotel
room was like a sea of flowers, red roses everywhere. The
Princess was totally exhausted, but very, very happy. It was a
difficult birth, which took a very long time. But the suffering
was very soon forgotten, now the only thing that counted was the
sweet baby in her arms. One could hear the jubilant calls from
outside: "long live Diana!"
She remained just one day in the hospital. As Charles and Diana
the baby before the door to the
clinic, the crowd applauded and one called out: "Do it once
more, Charles!" Relieved smiles on all faces. It was completed,
the photographers had their pictures and they could drive home.
took a complete rest. A nanny and an infant nurse cared for tiny William.
Charles was so excited by his son and heir, that was not able to take his eyes
from him. He gave his wife a small diamond necklace as a sign of his thanks and
happiness. But he forgot to give her the necessary attention and love needed.
Diana then suffered from a terrible post-natal depression. She cried a lot,
without knowing why. Often she spent an entire day in bed in a darkened bedroom.
She felt empty and useless. Charles couldn't understand this. Why was she not
happy and contented? What was Diana lacking? Psychologists were called upon. The
Queen was stunned as she heard what was happening in Kensington Palace. Why was
her daughter-in-law so weak? She had everything that a woman's heart could wish
for. No-one showed any understanding, neither Diana's own husband, nor the rest
of the Royal Family. And time and time again she was bombarded with reproaches,
time and time again she had the feeling that she was doing everything wrong. It
would have been so simple to have helped her at this time. Diana needed only
peace and patience. Luckily Diana was very soon able to overcome her depressive
phase. She was happy about the baby and pacified it with devotion. Prince
Charles was also completely crazy about the little chap, the three grew into a
proper family together Diana cared
very intensively for her son, despite the nanny. Charles proved a true talent in
baby care. Servants happily reported that the heir to the throne had taken a
bath with William.
Wills was now nine months old and his parents had to make a state visit to
Australia. The journey would take six weeks. For Diana such a long separation
would be impossible. She insisted on taking William with her. She also explained
this to the Queen, who, as expected, categorically denied this wish. Therefore
Diana threatened to stay in London with her son. She left no doubts open about
fulfilling her threat. A tricky situation for Queen Elizabeth, as she knew that
the Australians would be bitterly disappointed if Charles came alone. Diana
remained resolute. The Queen permitted it. The Australian visit was a complete
success. Storms of excitement and celebration everywhere. Diana even overcame
her shyness and could, without pressure, go up to strangers and chat with them.
in the same year Diana became pregnant again. Charles reacted to the news with
excitement. He obtained complete works about pregnancy and babies. He did not
want to hear again the accusation that he could not understand the problems of
an expectant mother. He fervently hoped for a cute little girl.
But on 15th September 1984 the second son Prince Harry, weighing 3118g, was
Diana was an
inspirational mother for her sons William and Harry. They always took up first
place in her life. Diana loved, protected and cared for her children more than
anything. They meant everything to her. Already as a small girl Diana wanted to
have at least five children. Later, as "Queen of Hearts", Diana wanted to be the
mother of the nation, the mother for the poor and sick of the whole world.
William and Harry were her happiness. Diana took on the role of mother with
devotion and passion. She wanted her sons to live as normal a childhood as
possible, even if that was often difficult to achieve.
Like every young mother Diana played and romped
around with her boys, and was very careful that the nanny didn't have too much
of an influence. For Diana there was never a question of letting nannies take
over the child-raising - something actually routine for aristocratic families.
After two dismissals the cheerful Tiggy Legge-Bourke took over the job. And now
a true nanny-drama began: Diana insinuated that Tiggy played the role of
hostess, flirted with her husband and took over the children. William and Harry
truly loved Tiggy, and also today, after Diana's tragic death, she is a very
important close contact for the pair. Diana loved having her sons to herself.
She spent as much time with them as possible. Diana was a loving mother and best
playmate in one person. There was no childish fun that she had not joined in
with : roller skating on the long corridors in Kensington Palace, jellybaby
eating competitions, log flume rides or dressing-up as ghosts using bedsheets.
Sometimes the three even secretly annoyed the old servants by always hiding
certain objects. Prince Charles was not always excited by the boisterous games
in his house. He insisted that his sons should be made familiar with their
future duties as soon as possible. This included discipline, order, first-class
manners and also sobriety. Especially William should be raised after kingly
principles. After all, the heir to the throne saw him as one day being his
supported a strict upbringing, as a four-year-old he had already had a
private teacher and several nannies. As Diana's view of child raising,
education and childhood was so different, there was often friction
between the married couple. Charles wanted his sons in any case to be
under the care of a private teacher for the first few years. Diana
insisted on a public nursery. There William and Harry could play with
others of the same age. Naturally the Queen completely agreed with her
son, and it was almost a miracle that the pair actually went to a
nursery in central London a few times. Later Diana's sons went to the
public school of Wetherby and afterwards the Ludgrove public boarding
Even when it is
natural in high society to send the children to boarding school, it was however
a painful parting for Princess Diana. Because she naturally loved to have her
children around her when she was alone in the evening in Kensington Palace and
felt alone. In June 1991 Prince William was accidentally hit by a golf club held
by a fellow pupil at the boarding school. Diana raced to the hospital. William
had a fractured skull, difficult contusions had to be operated on immediately.
But Charles left the hospital to keep and engagement. The operation lasted 75
minutes. Diana didn't understand how a father how a father could leave his son
alone at such a moment. As William awoke she was sitting beside him.
Diana's sons were her confidantes. She was not shy of showing her feelings
openly and honestly. When Diana once sat crying on the loo, having shut herself
in, and did not want to come out again, William pushed Kleenex tissues under the
door to his mother. He crouched down by the bathroom door and spoke to her.
Somehow he nearly always managed to get her to come out. And then he took her up
lovingly in his little arms. Diana avoided criticising Charles. She also didn't
mention his affair with Camilla. But she couldn't hide her tears from the
children. They certainly noticed much about their mother's unhappiness. Diana
always had a bad conscience about this. She knew only too well how much
children's spirits suffer when their parents argue. She wanted to make it
better, to save her children all their concern. Diana always had a deep concern
for her youngest. He was a sensitive child, so vulnerable and quiet. Harry often
spent the day dreaming, whilst William was a proper roughneck. He could be loud
and wild, but also conceal a lot of things. His younger brother liked to have a
cuddle. There are innumerable photos which show Diana seeking body contact with
Harry. Once she strokes his hair, then she takes him by the arm, or by the hand.
She always had the feeling that she had to protect him. Harry was pampered by
Diana. It was her way of relieving his sadness over the broken home. With
William, her beloved older son, Diana behaved differently. He was her ally, her
interlocutor and advisor. When a scandal broke out in the press, she drove to
his school and discussed everything with him. She explained what had happened to
William, and begged for understanding. Also when it handled delicate things like
the Camilla tape, the James Hewitt book, or the "octopus conversation". These
must have been dreadfully difficult moments in Diana's life!
And it comforted her to know how concerned William was about her wellbeing.
was a devoted mother. But it would be completely wrong to presume that Charles
was a bad father. He also loved his sons and tried to make their lives as
carefree as possible. He just had a different way with children. Charles
couldn't give them the same tenderness as Diana. The source for this certainly
laid in his childhood. As a small boy he was not allowed to show any feelings.
And so it is no miracle that he wanted to raise William and Harry as proper men.
Charles went hunting or fishing with them. He was proud when they caught a hare
or had good grades at sport. Charles clapped his oldest on the back with a wink,
as he was caught at 14 with a bottle of champagne on school grounds, and his
first sexual contact with girls was talked about. He spent a part of the school
holidays with his sons in Scotland, undertook long hikes and explained the
beauties of nature to them. Diana preferred to fly to distant lands with William
and Harry. The children always had fun with their mother: swimming in the
Caribbean, water skiing in the Mediterranean, snowball fights in Switzerland.
During the holidays the boys were allowed to do everything, but above all to be
children. They were allowed to eat hamburgers from the packaging, read comics,
play with other boys in the hotel. And this all meant a lot, when one had been
born into royalty!
At home in London or
also in the elite boarding school Eton they have to wear special armbands, which
are tiny locating devices. In the case of a kidnapping the police can tell at
once where the children of the Heir to the Throne are.
It is unimaginable how great the loss of their beloved mother is to William and
Harry. The picture of how they followed their mother's coffin with empty
expressions remains in the world's memory forever. And one thing is certain: if
Diana had experienced that her heart would have been broken. She was always so
concerned about keeping the darker side of life away from her sons.
Unfortunately Diana couldn't prevent the breakdown of her family. On the 28th
August 1996 the divorce with Prince Charles was finalized. She never wanted this
conclusive step. She wanted to remain married solely for her two sons, they
should not have to become the product of a broken home. The negotiations with
the lawyers ran with difficulty. Naturally it was about money. But not just
that. She fought like a lioness over her children. Naturally she knew that the
Queen of England would always have a voice in their upbringing.
But she was the mother, she didn't want to clear the field without stipulating
her requirements. The result did not satisfy the Princess, but more was not to
be achieved: Diana was made a divorcee, to a mother with joint custody of her
sons William and Harry. She would be allowed to spend 57 days in the year alone
with the children.